06 October 2018

Autumn Playlist 2018

Welcome back to Blogtober Day Six!

Today I wanted to keep it a little simple and just share with you some of my favorite songs that I listen to that help give my day a little more of an Autumn feel. Whether you're listening to them while you're sat out near a bonfire, or if you huddled up inside with a nice warm drink and a good book in your hands, these songs just exude Chilly Autumn Nights.



Anchor by Novo Amor



Slumber by Lewis Watson



What About Today? by Lewis Watson



Fever To The Form by Nick Mulvey



Birdsong by George Ogilvie



Cherry Wine (Live) by Hozier



Blood Bank by Bon Iver


If you want a new Autumn playlist but are stuck on where to start, I'd give those seven a listen first. They might inspire you to expand on that playlist. And if you have favorite songs this season, share them down below as I always like to listen to new things. Also, if you have a Spotify playlist of your Autumnal songs, comment them so I can go check them out as well.

Hope you have a great Saturday!

Jay



Mini disclaimer: I haven't had a proper blogging camera in a while and my iPhone isn't doing it. I'm hoping to purchase one soon but for now, my photos are free stock photos from the site StockSnap. Any photo(s) in this blog post is from that site. I'll update you when I've purchased my new camera.


05 October 2018

Five Autumn Date Ideas

Welcome back to Blogtober Day Five!

It's this time of year that brings out my romantic side. The chilly nights and plenty of autumn activities made me want to come up with some ideas for some fun autumn date nights. Just some ideas from a singleton. I have been in love before and these are some things I feel like would love to do or would be good for others a bit more brave than I.




Hay Ride
What is one thing you think of when you think of Autumn? The foliage! The changing color of the leaves is one of the most beautiful things you can see, especially here in New England. So why not turn that into a date with a Hay Ride? It's the best way to be bundled, cuddled, and have a lovely scenic view all at the same time.

Corn Maze
What better way to get to know your significant other better than to get lost in a corn maze!? It's a mini adventure and you would have plenty of time to learn more about one other while trying to find your way out of the maze. Maybe grab a celebratory hot drink after you've completed your run.

Apple Picking / Apple Harvest / Apple Crisps
I'm not sure how many other places have it, but I love when the Apple Harvest Festival rolls around. That's when Autumn officially starts. What's more romantic than a walk around the grounds, eating apple fritters and watching some fireworks?

Cozy Night In
One thing that comes into my mind anytime I think of Autumn is a cozy night in. Shorter days and longer nights makes it perfect to snuggle up in the blankets, with the candles and fairy lights lit watching Netflix. Know what's better? To have someone to cuddle with at the same time. A comfortable night in from the chilly nights are always appealing. Check out my Blogtober Day Four post all about my Perfect Autumn Night in.

Hot Air Balloon Rides
One thing that I love to see in one of the smaller towns near by is the Hot Air Balloons that rise above the clouds. Personally, I'm afraid of heights so I'm not sure how effective that will be romantically for me, but it's the idea of it that seems like it would be perfect for those of you who don't mind heights at all.

Bonus! Rent A Weekend Getaway Cottage
Now this would probably be more for those of you who have already been with your significant other for a while - I personally wouldn't rent a weekend cottage as a first date but ya know. This also doesn't have to just apply for this season. Honestly, you can do this all year around. But the coziest time in my opinion would be within Autumn and Winter when you could be able to go out for a hike or activities in the snow, and then come back to the cottage to start up that fire.
Seems like a perfect weekend to me.




Let me know which of these you would try out as date night. Also, what other Autumn themed date nights you have in mind?

Hope you enjoyed Blogtober Day Five!

Jay


Mini disclaimer: I haven't had a proper blogging camera in a while and my iPhone isn't doing it. I'm hoping to purchase one soon but for now, my photos are free stock photos from the site StockSnap. Any photos in this blog post is from that site. I'll update you when I've purchased my new camera.

04 October 2018

Perfect Autumn Night

Welcome back to the fourth day of Blogtober!

So, I failed the task already as I missed day two and three of Blogtober. But hoping to just keep moving on and continue on strong for the rest of the month.

With that said, today I just wanted to share my perfect Autumn Night In! Now, I know everyone has their own definition of their "perfect night in", but this is just what I love and makes me feel relaxed and comfortable. 





I'm going to start with freshly washed warm fluffy blankets. I seem to somehow collect small warm blankets and Autumn is the best time to bust them out.

I'm not much of a candle person but I love the look of them at night so I've recently busted out the "Dashing Through The Snow" by Bath and Body Works.

When the room is nicely lit with warm lights from the candles and fairy lights, and I'm starting to make a comfy fort with the fluffy blankets, it's time to prepare Netflix for the perfect show. What I love to watch during this time of year is rewatching Stanger Things and Riverdale. What are some of your favorite shows to watch during the Autumn season?

When I have everything all set is when I'll grab some comfort food. I don't know about you, but if I'm going to watch Netflix when I eat, I need it to all be ready before my food is finished.

Something I really want to get into this season is different soups I can prepare in the Crockpot. Soups have to be one of the biggest comfort foods I think of when I think of Autumn. If and when the soups are done, make some hot cocoa to help keep you warm during night.

After all that, I nestle up in my fort of comfortable blankets, relax and enjoy my cozy time in during the chill early nights.




Typing this out made me curious about what you guys do that makes it a perfect Autumn night in for you? Do you scrap the movies and play board games instead? Would you rather be outside for a bonfire? Let me know!

I hope you enjoyed Blogtober Day Four!

Jay

Mini disclaimer: I haven't had a proper blogging camera in a while and my iPhone isn't doing it. I'm hoping to purchase one soon but for now, my photos are free stock photos from the site StockSnap. Any photos in this blog post is from that site. I'll update you when I've purchased my new camera.

01 October 2018

Fall Tag // 2018

Happy First Day of Blogtober!
Of all the on and off years I've been blogging, this is the first time I'm trying to attempt blogtober. I don't quite know what sparked my ambitious attempt but I'll just go along with it and see how it pans out.

I've decided to kick it off with non-other than a Fall Tag. This tag was created by the lovely Ell, from ELLDUCLOS. She's a successful entrepreneur blogger with a lot of great and helpful tips to other bloggers. I'd highly recommend checking her out.

All you have to do in terms of rules is:
Shout out the person who tagged you by linking their blog
Answer the questions provided
And tag 5 others you want to see answer these questions as well!

Easy peasy. Let's get into the tag!




1. What is one candle you MUST light every fall?
I'll be honest and say I'm not the biggest candle person! Ironically, I have a candle on right now from my Katie (KFPestell) in the scent "Sea salt & lavender". It's helping me wind down for the night.
2. When you think of fall, what does it remind you of?
Being cozy. One of my favorite times of the year when I love to bust out the fuzzy socks, fairy lights and cozy blankets.
3. What is your all time favorite fall/Halloween movie?
Hocus Pocus. Can you do Autumn time without it? Classic!
4. What Halloween costume do you have in mind?
I'm waaay too old to go trick or treating. I have work and class on Halloween so I might just wear cat ears or some crazy makeup. If I'm invited to a Halloween party last minute, I'm certainly not ready.
5. What is your favorite fall trend?
Over sized sweaters / jumpers. My favorite one at the moment is a mustard one from Primark. Better believe I'm going to grab more. Also, layering. I love that you can still wear skirts as long as you wear tights and chunky heeled boots. It's a look ;)
6. When you think of fall, what drink comes to mind?
Pumpkin Spice, duuuh. Haha funny enough I don't like pumpkin spice. I'll stick to my apple ciders or hot cocoa with whip cream.
7. What is your go to fall beauty product? A must have staple!
Berry lips. I love me some berry lips. I wish it was a bit more acceptable to wear them in the middle of summer.
8. Do you prefer apple pie or pumpkin pie?
Apple pie all the way. And apple fritters. Yuummm.
9. Do you have any fall traditions? If so tell us all about it!
Unfortunately, I don't have any fall traditions. I wish it was something like apple or pumpkin picking. Maybe I should start this year and create a tradition.
10. The moment of truth, is fall your favorite season?
Ooooo, I feel like I got caught out. It's actually my second favorite season. Spring is my favorite because I love when it starts to get warm after the many months of absolute cold. But Autumn is a very close second. I'm very excited that we've entered this season.

I tag:
Shannon-Marie
Alys George
Sincerely Angiejj
Elena Isabelle
Hello Bexa

Hope you all enjoyed and got to see the little things I love about Autumn. I'm excited to see what others have to say about their favorite things of Autumn so let me know if you did this post as well!

Enjoy those airy nights!


Jay

15 August 2018

Sunshine Blogger Award

Welcome back!

I haven't done one of these in a while and I thought it would be fun to do another one after the lovely Mya from A Slice of Mya tagged me to answer her questions. She is new to blogging and is just a  lovely ray of sunshine. If you're reading Mya, thank you for tagging me! I love being able to answer some questions because I feel like it's a way to know the person behind the blog a little better even if it's just finding out what their favorite coffee is.


There are some rules to follow with this award and they are:
Thank the person who's tagged you and link their blog
Answer the questions they've asked
Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions
List the rules and display logo (Sorry, I made my own "logo" but the original is still floating around out there!)

Here are the questions Mya has asked:

Who is your favorite artist right now?
I'm really loving Lewis Capaldi. Those heartbreak songs are my jam. I'm keeping an eye out for a tour in the States where he'll be on the East Coast.

What kind of phone do you have?

I have the iPhone 7 in Rose Gold. I love this phone as I'm quite small and petite I feel like this phone fits well in my hands. I've seen the newer ones and they're all quite big.

What blog software/host do you use and why?

As of right now I'm using blogger. Once I relaunch my blog with the new name I've chosen, I'll be migrating to Wordpress.

What is your favorite color?

I love anything earthy toned. Neutral colors - and the occasional coral.

What is your coffee order?

I don't drink coffee very often. I'll have to be super tired to think of picking one up but when I do I order the Caramel Ice Coffee light and sweet at Dunkin'. Yes there is A LOT of sugar in light and sweet. It's why I don't have it often haha.

What is your favorite store to shop at?

Right now I'm loving Primark. Quality clothes for great prices. There's only one in my state at the moment so I have to plan out what day I want to drive 45 minutes away to go shopping.

Do you wear makeup everyday?

Mostly. I work as a receptionist and as front desk, you're the first person a customer sees and need to make a good impression. Even if I don't go glam, I try to tone down the redness on my face and put some mascara on.

Water or juice/soda?

I have to try hard for water. If there was soda and water next to each other I'd probably drink soda, but we don't really keep soda in the house so I tend to drink more water.

Do you write your posts randomly or have a plan for each one?

I try to plan ahead as much as I can. There are times when I do post randomly but it's seldom. This one was definitely on a whim!

What is your favorite social media?

Hmm, well, anything blogging related Twitter is my favorite. Instagram would be second as I'm not great on that platform. For just keeping in contact with family and friends, I still use Facebook.

What grade level was your favorite?

I'm guessing this question means grade anywhere from childhood to high school. I graduated high school about 7 years ago now so I don't really remember which was my favorite and why. But of any time academically where I've felt like I was doing great and getting somewhere it's only really been this past year that's motivated me to go back to college and go to University for a bachelors.

Here are the 9 lovely bloggers I'm nominating! (I know, I've broken a rule, sorry!)

Alexandra from Alexandra Quinlann
Angela from Sincerely Angiejj
Melina from Melina Elisa
Shannon from Shannon - Marie
Jen from Beauty Life Mom
Ell from Ell Duclos
Elena from Elena Isabelle
Em from EmilyBecca
Emma from Pink Aesthetic

Here are your questions!

1. If you could visit a country you've never been to before, where would it be?
2. What's the last song you've played?
3. Have you ever played any sports?
4. What would be your dream job?
5. What was the last book you've read?
6. Have you ever been to a blogging event?
7. Have you met up with any bloggers before?
8. What's another language you wish you could speak?
9. Why did you choose your blog name?
10. Do you have an item that you never leave the house without?
11. Where do you see yourself in five years?

And that's it! I really hope you enjoyed. It was nice to be able to post something that didn't need any planning at all. I don't know about you but I'm a bit nosey and like to see how other people answer things. Also, it's a great way to get to know someone. Thanks again to Mya for tagging me!

Thanks for reading,

Jay

07 August 2018

Travel Carry On Essentials

Welcome back!


Recently I took a trip down to Miami for one of my best friend's weddings and made it into a mini vacation / holiday. What I realized when I got home was that I was super grateful for what I packed in my carry on and decided that it would be my official carry on essentials for when I travel from now on. I hope this list will help you get some ideas on what could be helpful essentials for your next trip!

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Phone
My phone is something I can't forgot. Not only does it help me communicate, it's also where I can save my life long memories of photos. I think it's a must have for everyone, even if you brought a separate camera with you to take photos.


Earphones / Earbuds
I have an iPhone so the earphones I have can only connect to iPhones. I brought those along with me to be able to listen to music whilst I'm away. Here's a hard lesson I learned on the flight to Florida, if you have the earphones that plug in only to your phone, make sure to buy cheap earbuds that can plug into anything else. The flight never provided us with the earbuds for the mini screens and all I had were the ones that connected to my phone, so I spend the plane ride trying to lip read Monsters Inc.



Chargers
Make sure you don't forget your phone charger, laptop charger, tablet charger, etc. Mine comes along with me daily so I made sure it was packed into my carry on for my journey. Also, a great tip that I learned on my trip to England is to always bring a portable charger. I don't know about you but being out and about all day sight seeing and taking photos on your phone can definitely drain your battery. I get anxiety if I don't have a form of communication just in case so if I wasted the battery taking photos then I won't end up enjoying the rest of my day knowing I can't get in contact with someone if I needed. I brought a fully charged portable charger with me and my phone never ran low on battery while I was out. I would also recommend one of those international plugs if you're traveling somewhere that doesn't have the same outlets and plugs as your own country. I bought a UK one to plug into the wall as a mediator so I can plug my electronics in.



Money / Passport
Definitely an essential in anyone's travels is money and a passport. Make sure you have at least some cash with you just in case places don't take cards. If you're renting a car, a hard lesson we learned was the person who's name the reservation is under, needs to have a credit card day of picking up - at least the car rental place we used was like that. I didn't have to take my passport with me because we were traveling within the United States but obviously if you're traveling internationally it is something that you'll need to obtain a head of time and pack it away so you know you'll have it on your travels.

Disinfecting Wipes / Wet Wipes
I, for some reason, started taking disinfecting wipes with me on travels and I'm so glad I did. If you need to take a train, or subway, or if you're not at a place you can easily go wash your hands for some reason, disinfecting wipes are ready in your bag. When I was in London last year and I finally got to meet Katie (from KF Pestell) I somehow ended up cutting my finger and wasn't in an area to wash it before placing the band aid - so I used the wipes to try and help as much as it could.
Also, getting a little TMI here but a small pack of wet wipes can do a world of good. Just sayin'.



Motion Sickness Tablets
I've never been the type of person to get sick on a plane and neither have anyone I've taken a journey with until last. My friend got super sick on the plane and I felt really bad for her that she spent two and a half hours of being sick instead of being able to relax. When we landed she bought herself some motion sickness tablets for our journey home. Good thing she did because for the first time ever, I got nauseous on our way back. They definitely came in handy.

Face / Under Eye Masks
Lastly, this is something I never thought about until my last trip, my friend told me she bought us face and under eye masks for our flight. I don't know about you but I do not like wearing makeup on flights so this was a nice skincare routine that helped us refresh our skin while on our journey.

Those are my seven top carry on essentials that I will be bringing with me on every flight I take. I hope this as helped you if you're wondering on what to bring on your carry on with you and if you have must take carry on items that are different to mine, I'd love to hear about what they are in the comments!

Thanks for reading,

Jay

06 June 2018

ReBranding My Blog & Growing As A Person

Welcome back, little birdies!

I hope you're doing well today. Recently. I've been having a little bit of a think of why I haven't been into my blog as much as I used  to be - besides the obvious reasons of classes and work - and this is what I've come up with.



One major reason is the layout of my blog. It just doesn't inspire me anymore and I'm looking for something a little more sophisticated and crisp. I am in the works of giving my blog layout and maybe even the site I use, a major upgrade.

Another reason would be the name of my blog. It's a little bit of a bittersweet moment thinking about it but I don't feel like it truly fits anymore. When I first made my blog I made the mistake of giving it a "username" title. It was Jay18xoxox (or something like that). Jay being for my name, 18 because that was how old I was when I was first creating it (mind you, that was 7 years ago). I never posted back then when I first created it, then I redid the layout years later and actually started to post. A little while after that I decided to change the name to Blissful Beauty Bird. A name I will forever hold dear to my heart. I have an older post on why I chose that for my blog and at the time, it fit perfectly.

I started my blog in hopes of being a "beauty blog". I wanted to share my passion for products I was loving just as I've seen in previous blogs and even YouTube channels. Although, I still love beauty products and I am planning on sharing the occasional, it's not what I'm passionate about anymore. It's not what I crave to write about. The year 2017 had a major impact on who I am as a person and I realized myself starting to grow and really trying to "find myself"? I use the term "find myself" loosely as I did write posts back in November of Finding Myself and how I was on the quest of doing so but that year really helped me learn things about myself, whether big or small.

When it comes to interests, I've noticed myself moving away from beauty being the majority, to wanting to talk about lifestyle things - what's happening in my life, travel, what has been on my mind, what books I want to read, etc. I've noticed it's what I've been drawn to reading more of as well.

It did make me sad to think about knowing I wanted to move on from my little beauty world of Blissful Beauty Bird but I think it's the right thing for me to do to stay authentic to who I am as a person. People grow and change and it should be embraced. I am now 25 years old and I'm not the same person I was when I was 18, or 21, or even last year and that's okay.

The changes shown on my blog will take a little while as I want to make sure the name, layout and what I put out is exactly what I'd want. I will still be posting before the changes happen as I'm already in process of writing a post about travel and a post involving beauty products from a subscription box I was given for my birthday in April.

I hope you continue on this journey with me and are looking forward as much as I am of what's next for me and my little space on the internet.

Thanks for reading,

Jay

26 March 2018

Shaking off the "Lazy" Label

Welcome back!

If you've read my post Back to the Grind - College Edition , you would know I just recently started my classes again after a very long "semester off". Let me start off by saying about how much I am loving it and I'm so thankful to be back in the swing of things. Actually, it's probably better than being back in the swing of things, I'm beyond motivated and happy with my decision, I've been working really hard to try and do well in my classes to achieve my goals.

(Source: StockSnap )

One thing people immediately do when I tell them I've started my classes again and am taking three this semester is look at me a bit worried and say, "And you're working?". Yes, I am taking three classes that have rather extensive reading to them, while I'm working. I never really saw this as a big deal. I figured at least it wasn't five classes and working. Once I started my classes I realized that unless I'm keeping up with everything, it'll be easy to fall behind. The time that I'm not in class or working, I need to dedicate to finishing my readings, homework, and essays. I learned quickly that keeping up with things, and using your time wisely helps keep the load off and ensures you're up to date with the class and doing well.

I'm going to back track a little bit and get to the point of this post. While I was growing up and in school, I never really put in my best effort. Not in middle school, high school or the beginning years of college. I was considered "Lazy". As much as I've always hated that term, I look back now and realize I really was. I just didn't want to try. I was content with mediocre work.

I've come a long way since then but I feel myself trying to shake off the "lazy" label. I've gotten to the point of being exhausted some days to prove to others that not only can I achieve what I said I would do but to show that I'm not lazy. I read somewhere - I wish I knew where I read it, as the saying seemed to have stuck with me - that we seem to glorify being exhausted. Becoming so busy and having no "me" time to relax, eat some potato chips and watch Netflix is something that has been correlated with a hard worker. I feel like I was trying to do that this semester but realized the huge fault in it.

I've realized that I'm not lazy at all. It just comes down to the point of what you're motivated in, you'll put the effort in to achieve more. I wasn't trying when I was younger because I wasn't motivated in anything - but now that I am, I'm so ready to achieve my goals. It's all a matter of finding out what you want to do with the rest of your life, or even just smaller goals, and setting up what you need to do to get there - guaranteed you'll want to do your best to achieve it. Those steps don't have to take over your whole day, take some time and watch that new episode on Netflix or read a book or take a nap. Just remember the balance.

I hope this post helps you. Work hard on what you want to achieve and your goals. No matter how you get there, try not to compare your success with someone else's. Keep on keeping on and remember to take a break every once in a while so you don't over do it.

Jay

18 February 2018

Back to the Grind - College Edition

Welcome back!

This year seems to be chugging by as we're  a l r e a d y nearing the end of February! Where is the time going?! I've been super busy this past month and so very motivated and I felt it would be a great post to show you guys were I'm at at the moment.


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I'm so thankful to be surrounded by driven, hard working, and motivational people and that's definitely given me a good ole kick in the butt to get back in the game with my classes. I stopped taking classes about two and a half years ago because I didn't know where I wanted to be in life. I didn't know what I wanted to do and to be honest, I just felt like I wouldn't be good at anything.

In the past, I've gotten myself into trying to get into programs and getting into degrees that wasn't something I enjoyed. And because of that, I wasn't motivated to continue. By the time I realized I should do something with my life  that I enjoy instead of just taking anything because it might pay well, I was already taking classes without purpose. Kind of like just going through the motions of college without a plan or an end goal. I decided to take some time off of class and just work but that short time to think turned into almost nearly three years of not taking any classes.

The year 2017 really helped me focus on what I want in life. I want to be able to do something I enjoy and something I'm relatively okay at. So, I decided I wanted to take up an English Major as my degree. Although I'm not totally sure what path exactly I'd like to take with that degree once I get it, I'm in the process of just starting this journey and seeing where it leads me in the end.

Also, please keep in mind that although my posts aren't the most creative and well drafted or informational.. I'm only starting out my classes! I'm hoping the more classes I take and the more years I get into it, it'll also reflect onto my blog. Improving your craft!

I started my classes in the middle of January and it surely has been a rush! I'm more motivated than I've ever been to do well and get to where I would like to be in life. Between classes and working my normal hours, I've realized how much of planning ahead will keep me in control and up to date with all my work. That also includes my blogging! I started off January with only one post for 2018 but blogging is something I love to do and I'm trying to fit it in my schedule to continue to bring out new content while balancing class and work as well.

As I take these classes and continue on my journey of an English Major, I look forward to bettering my blog and my posts while I grow and learn a new passion of mine!

Thanks for all your patience with my posts and thanks for reading!

Jay




08 January 2018

2017 Year Review

Welcome back!

This past year has been one of many ups and downs. It's definitely a year that I'm going to remember. There are definitely goals that I've met as well as those that I have fallen short of achieving and that's okay. Looking back at my goals of the start of the year from my post "Cheers to a Good Year", I can take inspiration on looking forward into the new year.

On the top of my list was "Taking Control of My Anxiety". I feel as though I've made great progress when it comes to that. This past year thankfully wasn't as bad with my anxiety - despite it creeping up on me every once in a while. It started to get tough around May and I decided to take the first step into letting out those emotions that I had.  I decided to go to counseling for it. One thing I'm adamant about is not going on medication. Please don't get me wrong, I know medication can really help people and have definitely benefited the lives of people I know personally. I just don't think it was the right choice for me. Regardless, just being able to talk about how I'm feeling when I get panic attacks has absolutely helped me a lot. It's also encouraging when you're letting it out, and feel as though that person understands exactly what you mean. Not like you're mental for thinking the way you do. Counseling has boosted my way of thinking and from it, I've had less anxiety this past year.

(Free Stock Photo Source: Stock Snap)

Globetrotter in the making.

The beginning of the year I said that I wanted this year to be the first of my traveling adventures. That was something I've certainly succeeded on. This past July, I spent a week in England. It was my long awaited goal that I've finally checked off the bucket list. I went for a week and spent most the time in London and about a day and a half in Worcester. I mostly went to meet up with my closest friends. In the process, I met up with my best blogging friend Katie from K.F. Pestell. She had taken the train to London to meet up with me and we spent the day around the city. I'm just going to quickly add, she's amazing. It was like we were just catching up from seeing each other the week before, not meeting for the first time. I loved it and I can't wait to hang out with her again in the future! I then spent time with my other friends and we spent three days at the Hyper Japan Festival down in Wapping before heading up to Worcester. One thing I love about the country is how much history there is. I've always been really interested in the English history, so to walk about the place and learn just a bit more was the best. I'm really glad I was able to face some fears and start my wanderlust journey.




 Code Word: Blogger

One goal I've certainly not kept up with was blogging. This past year wasn't my best with blogging but I'm hoping to change that for the new year. I'm going to ease myself back into the blogging game again and even try to be more social on my twitter to join chats with my fellow bloggers. One thing I'll be weary of is sticking to a schedule. I know that's probably the best thing you can do with your blog but I don't want to stress out and put out posts that I don't love.

I spoke in my "Cheers to a Good Year" post about wanting to finally meet up with some of my best time blogging friends and this summer I was actually able to meet two out of the three of them! As I said before, (and to be honest, I won't ever get tired of saying it!) I met up with my love Katie in London. When I got back home, I was also lucky enough to meet up with Jen from Beauty Life Mom. She and I live a couple states away from each other but she and her family was traveling up through southern New England and was passing by my state before they headed home so I was so excited when we were able to make plans to have lunch before their long journey home! Jen is another person that it felt like we were just catching up instead of meeting for the first time. And, might I add, she is hilarious. Hopefully this time I can take the trip down and hang out with her more.
I may not have been able to meet up with Srna this year but because of her beautiful wedding, she was able to move from being 6 hour difference away in Brussels, Belgium to being 1 hour time difference in the SAME COUNTRY! Unfortunately, it's not like I can drive over her place and have a chat but we do have our FaceTime dates that definitely help. I know we'll meet up soon enough and I literally can't wait.

I feel as though 2017 was a good year over all and definitely the year of many new things. I feel it was a pivotal year that's helped open my eyes to many things. It certainly has had it's fair share of ups and downs but it might be one for the books that I will never forget.

2017 has definitely shaped how I'd like to be in 2018.
So to that, I say,
Cheers to a New Year!

Jay

04 December 2017

Quest To Finding Myself: Toxicity of Too Much Social Media



My first post back since August was talking about how much I've lost who I am. I've felt like I'm so far gone from who I thought I was. Constantly comparing myself to others and really just trying to fit in with the fold. Whoever they are. I'm trying to take some major steps back to be able to chip away at the facade of trying to be like others and discovering who's really underneath.

First tiny step I've taken was to try and wean myself off of social media, much like a baby growing accustom to solid food after having nothing but their mothers milk. Quite the metaphor but you get my point. As much fun as social media is, it's also very toxic if you let it take over your life. Which is definitely what I did. Now, I understand how it might be important especially in the blogging world. Constantly keeping engaged and current is crucial for maintaining an up to date blog with your audience. I would know because I do just the opposite. But putting that aside, and not thinking about social media helping your hobby or work, the majority of us are on it from the moment we wake up to the minute we go to bed.

You might ask, "What does social media have to do with finding yourself?" Great question. You ask a lot of great questions. (Let's see if my friends caught on to that one.) Daily, I'd go between Facebook, twitter, Instagram,  and Snap Chat and then just circle those for hours on end. Not only is that a waste of time that you could be enjoying the sunshine, fresh air, a walk around the park, or quality time with family and friends but I feel it's a bit harmful to your self confidence as well. I know that was a huge leap from treading the countryside to how one thinks of one self but it's true. At least in my case. I'm always comparing myself to the other girls I see on Instagram - how they look, act, talents, etc. The successful bloggers on twitter and how I wish my blog was like theirs or even people I know personally and what they might have achieved in life.

With all that said, I decided to start slow and log off my Facebook for a few days. I think I'm a good five days strong as I'm writing this (Update: since I take so long to upload my posts, I've officially been off for nearly 2 weeks). I know Facebook is just one app out of many and I still have been using my other social media but I'm trying to start slow. For a person who checks their social media almost every 5 minutes, cold turkey would set me up for failure.

By no means am I saying you have to shut off any and all social media you have or that social media will make you insecure with yourself. I'm just writing out the steps I'm taking to have a better mindset about myself, wholesome living and finding myself again. This does not mean I'll delete all my social media and throw out my phone. Everything in moderation. I'm just hoping by shutting off my social media every now and then will just help me focus on me, instead of what everyone else is doing.

As I continue to lessen my time on social media, I'll be sure to keep you updated on how that's working and what I'm doing to better myself in placement of just scrolling the depths of the internet for hours on end.

Thanks for tuning in.

Jay

22 November 2017

Finding Myself Again



Prologue: I went searching for free stock photos I could use for this post when I came across this one. It's funny because the meaning meant a lot more to me than just slowing down the car in rural neighborhood. The ease and serenity of the photo made me think of my body and mind saying "Thank you for slowing down". Remembering to take time for you in a non-stop world is important.

It's only been a few months since my last "Where have I been?" post. I make a lot of excuses on why I haven't been posting or even engaging on social media like I would like too. I think of what's been keeping my hands occupied enough where I "don't have the time to blog". Whether it be work, my trip that I spent months preparing for, church, hanging out with friends ect. I now realize that it's not what I feel have been occupying my hands that are keeping me away from blogging but what's been occupying my mind. It comes down to the simple fact that I'm keeping myself away from blogging because I haven't wanted to. I don't feel like it's something that should be forced either.

I noticed that I don't like to get too personal on my blog because I'm afraid of being vulnerable. I know I've mentioned my anxiety before and I know that it's quite common and a lot of people go through it. I have been taking counseling for my anxiety and depression for the past several months. And with my counseling, one thing that I've discovered is about how much I've lost myself.

I've noticed I've put a huge pressure on myself to be just like everyone else. To make my blog seem like those of people who we feel are the "perfect blogger" with the "perfect life". To only speak about certain subjects because people like reading them from others but not necessarily putting out everything I feel. Worried that something I put out might be looked at as controversial so keeping quiet on things that I strongly stand behind. I've been so enamored with what everyone else is doing and trying to be like everyone else and liking what they're liking - I've completely lost who I am, what I enjoy, and my own outlook on life. Constantly comparing myself to others and trying to do what others like to please them. Whether that be in the blogging community or in my daily life.

As I'm typing this, trying to figure out traits, mannerisms, things that make up who I am - are they even me at all?

I can even feel me doing it as we speak. The nagging feeling in the back of my mind that as I type this, I'm just feeling like I'm not very good with my words and my posts aren't creative literature that captures people into wanting to read more.. so why am I still typing? And if you're reading this until now, you're probably just as confused as I am on what I'm blubbering about. There really isn't rhyme or reason to this post. I'm just typing as I go along.

I'll try my best to work through this while keeping this blog up to date. Maybe starting my own series of posts just me trying to journey through life. I'd like to try and be more mindful of things instead of just sitting on social media. I feel like that's a good chunk of why I'm feeling like I do. But that's a story for another post.

I still want to post about the beauty items I love because at the very least, I know that's something I do enjoy. I just have to have fun with it and not compare those beauty posts to the millions of others out in the beauty community.

Here's to my journey on finding myself again..

Jay

23 August 2017

Box Swap w/ K.F.Pestell

Welcome back, little birdies!

In the beginning of the year, my bestest blogging friend Katie from K.F. Pestell and I agreed to do a little box swap with each other. We've known each other and our blogs for a little over a year now and clicked right away. As you all know, I'm on the East Coast America (for now ;) ) and she's across the pond over in England so we figured it'd be nice to send a little each other little bits and bobs that was harder for the other to get a hold of.



She had a little bit of a hard time sending it off to me through the post office so we decided we could just wait until we met up in London to give it to me. We finally met this past July and it was the greatest thing ever! Unfortunately, because the post office wouldn't let her send the box, and she can't travel with a huge box and lug it around all day, she had to take the contents out of the box and put it in a bag. She did also buy me one of those cute London bags with a double decker on it to make up for not being in the box haha. I loved it either way. Here's what was in the box! She wrapped everything up so lovely. I don't have a picture but I did do a video on snapchat if you want to see it!

First, I'll start with a request of little goodies from Rosie for Autograph. After I saw Alys' post over at Alys George of the two lipsticks she got from the brand and I fell in love. We don't have M&S over in the States and when I tried to order online, they didn't have it available to send to the States so I thought that request would be nice. And Katie being the little angel she is, added some to my box! I got Rose Lace and Silk Rose lipsticks. Both absolutely beautiful shades - they're perfect - one for during the day and one for night. Can I just add that the rose gold packaging is blog photo worthy. She also added a liquid liner from Rosie's collection because she knows how much I love my liners. I've not had much luck with felt tip liners but this one works great! Definitely impressed.



Next up, I opened two Tanya Burr lip products. I've never had any Tanya Burr products before so I was excited to receive these. Katie bought me a bubble gum pink matte lip in the color Puppy Paws and a nude lip gloss in the shade Lunch Date. She's so silly. She told me she didn't notice that Lunch Date was a gloss instead of matte and was hoping I'd still like it. I absolutely love Lunch Date. I can put it on top of any lipstick for that extra bit of color and shine. No need to worry. :)




Before I opened up my goodies, I spent a day with Katie around London (You can read about how we met HERE ). Funny enough, we were talking about Bourjois and how we don't have that brand here in the U.S. and I saw it when I went into the stores over there. When I got back to the hotel and opened up my gifts, I saw that she added Bourjois Shiny Finish Lip Color in the shade Laque. It's a gorgeous berry color. I think it'll be perfect for Autumn coming up soon. To match, she added a Barry M Nail Varnish in Fuchsia Generation. I love it!!



I then opened up the Soap & Glory Super Cat Skinny Liner. I've heard amazing things about this liner and so far its been working out well with me. The felt tip is a bit longer than I'm used to from other felt tip liners. Actually, I feel Rosie for Autograph's liner is quite similar to this one. I'm already sure that I'll be repurchasing this once it's run out.



Katie then added a No. 7 Sea Salt & Lavender Soft & Soothing Aroma candle. I was really excited to receive this because it smells SO good! It's definitely one of those candles you turn on before bed at night to make the room comfy and relaxing just in time to sleep. I feel like it's a bit of a pamper product. Once I do my at home spa night routine I can have this on in the back while I cuddle into my bed with the fairy lights on to get ready for a great nights sleep.



Being the little investigator that she is, she knew from one of my posts that I love to sketch. I used to do it all the time and spend hours on perfecting a sketch. So my lovely Katie bought me a new sketch pad and art pencils to get back in my creative side with art. How thoughtful!?!? I'm working on something at the moment I'm hoping it turns out the way I'd like so I can send it over to her. 😚

These last two items that I opened were by far my favorite. Leaving the best for last per say. These mean so much to me because she put her time and effort and looooooove into them. The first is a bracelet she made me that has my name on it with earthy toned colors because those are my favorite type of tones and she figured that I never had my name on a key ring because my actual name is more unique. How cute?! (I won't be uploading a photo because it has my name on it. But trust me -  it's beautiful)  She also FELTED ME A SPARROW. Can you imagine the time and probably stress it takes to FELT A SPARROW!? I just can't. She knows Sparrows are my favorite animal and for her to do that for me especially during her time in uni and studying for exams. That just makes me so over the moon and appreciate her as my best friend so much. I couldn't have been so honored and blessed to have met her.



Everything I received was so well thought out and let's be real - I was very spoilt! I'm so thankful to have her in my life. I miss her so much already and can't believe it's already been a month since I've seen her! Hopefully that'll change within the next year and I'll be able to see her more often <3 I HIGHLY recommend giving her blog a follow. You can find her at K.F. Pestell . Her blog is very mindful and wholesome. It's definitely worth the read.

So to my Katie bear, I thank you SO much for the thoughtful contents in my little goodie bag and I'm even more thankful for the chance to be able to hang out with you. It was such an amazing day that (in my humble opinion) went by WAY too fast. I can't wait to see you again soon! Love you, girl!

Jay


10 August 2017

My English Adventures July 11th - 19th 2017

Welcome back, little birdies!

I know the last time I posted I was keeping you up to date with everything that's been happening and keeping me a little on the busy side and away from blogging. July was an exciting month for me as I took my first European trip across the pond to our neighbors, The U.K. I had an absolutely amazing time. This post will be a long one because I would really like to go back and read it in the future but  I would also like to share it with you. I had quite the experience so grab a "cuppa" and a snack.



I arrived on English soil after a 6 hr flight. It was a bit of a surreal feeling knowing that I wasn't at home anymore and in a completely different country and culture. It was cloudy and a little bit rainy when we arrived, just as you would imagine English weather to be but thankfully it didn't last long as the rest of the week ended up being beautifully sunny and warm.

We hired a driver who took us from Heathrow to our hotel at the Holiday Inn Regent's Park which was only a stone's throw away from the bustling Oxford Street. We arrived a couple hours before our check in time so we decided to go out for breakfast at Villandry's on Great Portland Street. First meal in England and I absolutely loved it. I had some scrambled eggs, with mushroom and toast and it was delicious. Our first day was definitely very chilled. We walked down Great Portland to see what was around before heading back to our hotel for some English "telly" and a well deserved nap. We agreed on a meeting time of 6:30pm to head out for dinner.



I researched restaurant's in the area and we decided on Tinsel Town which is an American styled diner just down Great Portland. It was packed at the time we reached the restaurant but were seated within minutes to a very attentive staff. I have to admit, I wasn't expecting the food to be as good as it was. It was beyond delicious that I'm sure my mom and friend Ann went a few more times through out the week without me.


Once we were done, we took a stroll down to Oxford Street. I was really surprised with how early everything closes daily. It was only Wednesday night and shops were closing down before 10pm. Where as back at home, everything is open pretty late and the only times it actually closes early is on Sundays. So with that, we went back to our hotel.



The next day was a very exciting day as I was meeting up with one of my bestest blogging friends, Katie, from K.F. Pestell . She and I have been separately inseparable since we found each others blogs. Never meeting never stopped us from growing closer as friends and having regular catch ups about life and not just our blogs. The morning went by fast as my mom, Ann and I were picking Katie up from Charring Station to do touristy stuff around London. Little did I know that London was busier than it's normal busy because of the Dunkirk premiere. We had gotten into a taxi that should of gotten us to the station probably within 20 minutes. Our driver was kind enough to let us know that it would be faster to get the tube to the station rather than pay a large amount of money by the time it took us to get there due to the traffic. With time to spare, we decided we'd site see London by walking to Charring Station - ahem.. stress city. I don't know what I was thinking but we definitely got lost and had Katie waiting about an hour and a half at the station... Sorry!! FINALLY, we managed to have our first ever meeting right under a giant thumb statue in front of the Natural History Museum.



It's amazing to see just how much my blog has done for me. I've (virtually) met SO many amazing people around the world through my blog and even gained best friends. So to actually meet Katie in person was more like we were having a catch up of not seeing each other in a bit rather than meeting for the first time. Can I just mention, she's just as beautiful inside and out in person as she appears on her blog. I only wish we had more time to spend together and that I wasn't an ocean away so I could see her more! 😍



That Thursday sped through quickly as we toured through London a bit, stood outside Buckingham Palace waiting for the Queen to make her appearance,  ate a delicious meal at the Hard Rock Cafe - funny enough, all four of us had the exact same meal haha - went in search of the Lego Store so I could get London stamps on my brother's lego passports, and then stood on the outskirts of the Dunkirk premiere before heading back to Charring Station so Katie could take her train back home. It was so sad to have that goodbye hug knowing it was going to be a while until I was able to hang out with her again. Although, my family loves her and my mom now feels as though she just gained a beautiful British daughter and have offered Katie a place to stay if she's ever on the East Coast. 💓



Friday was the last day I was spending in London with my mom and Ann as I was meeting up with my long time very special closest friend (Haha could I have made that any clearer that we're VERY close. :p) . Mini disclaimer - For their privacy and my own, I'll be changing their names and leaving out some details of why my time with them was beyond special to me. There's certain parts of my life I like to keep private and to myself because I cherish them so much. With all that said we'll call my friend "Nick" and his sister "Sarah". He picked me up at my hotel and met up with his sister and their friend on Oxford Street to head down to another hotel near the Tobacco Dock as we had the weekend pass to the Hyper Japan Festival. What I wasn't prepared for - and I don't know why I didn't look at google maps to see how far it was - was the walk to Wapping. We walked an hour and a half with bags and suitcases (Super thankful to Nick who was a gentlemen through and through and carried my suitcase which weighed a ton :) ) through London in the heat. You could only imagine just how worn out we were by the time we got to the hotel. We rested for a bit before we did more walking to and around Tobacco Dock for Hyper Japan 2017.

Once we got to Hyper Japan on Friday the first thing that was looked for was food. The lines for food were absolutely ridiculous and it looked like you'd be waiting for ages. We decided for some quick "fries". I'm not sure what in the world these fries were - they had like seaweed in them and some other stuff. They were good, and we all devoured them but for some reason half way through the day they ended up not sitting well with my stomach. I became very hot, and nauseous and had to sit out instead of wandering in the different areas of the place and looking around. We all went outside for some fresh air when they all started talking about food. Once I got that sick feeling just by listening to conversation about food, I knew I had to try and make it around the maze that is Tobacco Docks to the bathroom asap. Nick was a great nurse and escorted me to the toilets to throw up.. twice. I didn't get to see much that day but the toilet bowl and before I knew it we were heading back to the hotel not long after to rest up enough for the next two days.

Next day we planned on being at Hyper Japan for 10:00am so we could avoid long lines. Saturday was a lot better than the day before when it came down to how I felt. I was able to wander around the place without having to sit outside and throw up. It was really cool because Sarah and her friend both dressed in cosplay that were absolutely kick butt. Watching people come up to her and ask for a photo felt like I was with a celebrity haha. I always thought I was this huge anime nerd especially when I was a teenager. But after going to Hyper Japan and not knowing much, I realized I had a lot of anime culture to catch up on. I have no clue who Sarah was cosplaying (Sorry!) but she looked cool none the less. That day we wandered around to shops. I didn't buy much as I knew I had to carry it all back and try to lug it back to the States. What I'm glad I bought were these BEAUTIFUL digital art from this little shop. Nick said every time he'd go to HJ he'd buy a painting from the shop. The artist is beyond talented and I appreciate this type of art so much I bought myself two of the smaller sizes and one for my brother. I'll certainly be purchasing more. I love this style of art. I was going to add photos but I think it'll be better to link her website instead. I highly recommend checking it out - HERE.

 On Saturday we even watched the CosParade which is watching all the people who entered show off their amazing cosplay. I totally regret not taking any pictures of the venue and what was around as it would've been great to look back on with what we did during those days. I did manage to get a bit from Sarah so I could put a little something together. (Thank you!)



Sunday was a lot more chill. We went off to Hyper Japan around 10:00am grabbed food and wandered about for the last day. That day we spent more time chilling outside as it gets really crowded and hot inside. We didn't spend too long there and spent the rest of the day watching movies in the hotel room. It was a great end to an eventful weekend.😊 Monday was our travel day. We checked out of the hotel, and went on the two hour walk up to Hyde Park where we checked out the beautiful little garden, sat on the grass for hours and fed pretzels to pigeons before taking the long train ride from London up to Worcestershire. Nick and I got home (my home away from home) at around 7pm and our friend bought us all seafood pizza while we watched movies the rest of the night. - Can I just add that seafood pizza is now my favorite. It was absolutely delicious and now I'm making myself hungry for one. Yuuumm. -



Tuesday was one of my favorite days as I spent quality time with Nick and wandered around the town site seeing and falling in love with it and it's history. Magical. It was a very chill day as we slowly strolled around the river. I needed many breaks in between because Nick walks fast and it was hot out. Haha those are my excuses for being completely unfit. ;p We spent a few hours out before heading back home to chill out a little. Later on, I took my first trip to Asda to grab some necessities for chilling the rest of the night. It was a leisure day that I enjoyed very much. Perfect last full day in England.💓

Wednesday was the day we journeyed back home and it was probably the most heart breaking. We got up early so I can pack away my things and we could make it to the train on time. Cried a bit on the train. Got to London two hours later. Slowly made our way from Paddington to the Holiday Inn in Regent's Park near Oxford Street to meet up with my mom and Ann again and said my very sad "see you later"'s to Nick before heading off to Heathrow for our flight home.



My flight home went by pretty quickly and we landed at around 11pm on Wednesday night. It was so strange to be back home as I was getting used to life in England. - Can you imagine?! Just after a week! :) - Now that I've been back I can look back on those memories and honestly say it was the best time. I loved every moment of it. I'm SO thankful I got to see and spend quality time with my love bug Katie and my friends Nick and Sarah. They made the trip that much more amazing. Now, looking forward I'm hoping to apply to a university in England hopefully for next September to start new chapters of my life. But for now, I'm content knowing I have these wonderful memories to look back on.

Jay